I have found my peace. My relationships are thriving and I am constantly striving to complete each goal that I have set for myself. It’s safe to say that I am “happy.” However, one major challenge within happiness is loneliness. The more I’ve learned about happiness, the more I’ve come to realize that loneliness is a common and important obstacle to consider. Psychology says, that in order to be happy we need sufficient material resources, intimate bonds with others, and a stable environment.
While I can agree that these factors play an important role in our lives, I do not believe that is all that it takes to satisfy the void we feel in our hearts. I believe the key to a not-lonely life is a connection with God. The second major key is enjoying company. Not the company of your boyfriend/girlfriend, not the company of our friends nor families, but enjoying our OWN company. How many people do you know that are in relationships that are STILL lonely? How many wealthy people have everything they could have ever imagined in life yet they are still…..lonely??
For many of us, “alone” is a negative state of being. Society and social media following support the notion that other people make us important. Being alone carries a negative connotation that implies sadness or isolation. But what many people tend to overlook is that there is so much power we can pour into our souls by learning to trust and rely on our own inner voice as the best source of guidance. Being alone matters and learning to be comfortable with it is even more important. Being alone allows us to think for ourselves introspectively. We can analyze situations and make our own decisions without being socially influenced.
More specifically, learning how to be alone can be beneficial to us when it comes to pursuing a romantic partner. You will have instilled in yourself what you know to be true about who you are, and what you will and will not tolerate. Your partner will only be a bonus to your life, not the missing puzzle.
I say that to say this, Be thankful for yourself. No one can have your back like you have your own back. In the field of personal development, WE are our own best teachers.
And after all, if you know what I know to be true.. you’ll find peace in knowing we’re never truly alone.