“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.” – Anne Lamot.
We are constantly in motion. Like the rest of your body, your brain changes with each passing year. As a twenty something year old, the regions in the frontal lobe that are responsible for judgment, planning, weighing risks and decision-making finally finish developing. What does that mean?
It means that with each passing day, we get better. Our mindsets change and we gain clarity. With clarity comes a loss of relationships and new relationships.
Just as a security system protects our homes, we must protect our mental state and our energies. But, Wh@t dOeS Pr0TeCtinG YoUr En3eRgY Ev3n M3an? Protecting your energy simply means to pay attention. Pay attention to the company you keep, pay attention to what you intake, and pay attention to self care.
Pay attention to the company you keep: For example, it is perfectly healthy to cut off a friend you no longer enjoy spending time with. There is no reason to feel guilty in doing so, nor continuing the relationship because it’s habit to spend time with them. There are warning signs. Your interests may shift, you no longer have a particular thing in common, or they no longer bring positivity to your life. This person may be a childhood friend, a college friend, a colleague or an ex, etc. Just like we grow out of our old shoes, we can grow out of relationships. The key is recognizing when that relationship becomes problematic and moving on.
Pay Attention to what you intake: If you’re like me and you wish to live a healthy life. You will probably not eat junk food everyday. However, protecting what you intake is more than just watching what you eat. Its filtering what you watch, and filtering what you listen to. You attract what you intake, and if you wish to live a more positive life, intake more positive shows, and listen to positive influences/music.
Pay Attention to self care: Listen to your body. Self care does not necessarily mean spending $100 on a spa day on your day off. For me, self care is unplugging myself from the world, drinking hot tea with ginger and doing a $3 coconut face mask. Self care could be playing video games after a stressful day or simply meditating. Listen to your body and give it what it needs. May it be water, sleep, or even lotion (for the ashy mofos, kidding of course) be attentive to you.
After all, we only get one body. Protect your energy. Your future self will thank you for it.